What are you usually talking about when you hookup?
Lily recently had a new hookup partner. They have been together for over a month now. It isn’t a relationship, because they agreed from the beginning that they are both not ready for relationships, since they just got out of one. However, these days, Lily had this feeling that the guy he hooked with are talking to her about his work and even family members. He even introduced her about his family members in the picture. Lily got confused. Is it supposed to be something people talk about with their significant other?
By giving you this example, I am trying to tell you that if you find your hookup partner is telling you all about his family, his career his parents and other personal and private stuff like that, he might be interested in developing a relationship with you or at least, he is seeing you as his potential girlfriend, because he is trying to get you know more about him. But if your conversation is strictly limited in sexual related topics and other topic that you can heard from an unacquainted, then he might doesn’t have the intention to push your relationship further.
Did he ever mention doing something with you in the future?
Lily and his hookup partner Tom were lying in bed after they just had an amazing one night hookup. Suddenly, Tom brought up a proposal that they should go out for a weekend one day to his cottage in the village. Lily agreed happily, but later on, she suddenly realized that they just met each other for like a month, such a proposal doesn’t seem like to be proper to a hookup partner. Lily couldn’t help but wonder, does he want something more?
It doesn’t need to be in the long future. If he thinks about doing something with you outside the bedroom, he might be interested in more than just a hookup relationship. If he asks your opinion when he decides to repaint his wall. That could be a sign as well. People won’t care about the opinion of their hookup partner, let alone making plans with them. If you sensed your hookup partner is trying to add you into their usual schedule for more things than just lovemaking, you should have a head-up, because they might want a relationship.
They would keep making plans just to see you. If you agreed that it will be something casual and he can’t wait to make the next plan with you every time you meet, that is another sign. Usually in a hookup, people wouldn’t rush to make plans with their hookup partner. They would maybe make a booty call when they are in the need. However, in a relationship, because of true feelings and emotional attachment, people would want to see you even though you just spent time with each other. That is the different between hookup and relationship.
They remember little things about you. Who would remember your little habit if you are just hookup partners? Only when a people truly care about someone, can they take notice of their little habit, like what kind of coffee do you like? What food do you like? Etc.
Any hookup has the chance to be turned into a relationship, even you met on the most popular trans hookup apps. Where ever you meet, that doesn’t matter. What matters is how you feel about each other and don’t miss the right one for you.